Examples of insecurity Before you get in, it’s “Is my profile good enough to get me in?” When you get in, it’s “Wait! There’s been a mistake! They let me in! How did this blessed computer glitch happen! Huzzah!” After you get in, it’s “I can’t handle how hard this is about to be. I can’t go. I need more work experience. I need more money. I need more prep coursework. I need more time. I’m not ready!” Once you get there, it’s “I’m nowhere near as smart as these people. I am going to be the class dunce. I will have nothing of value to share. I will fail out. Let the countdown begin.” Once classes begin, it’s “My professor does not know my name. Oh, she knows my name, but she hates me and thinks I’m stupid. How did I get here?!” and the wheel of crazy spins on and on… I entertained some version of all of these insecure thoughts throughout my grad school experience, and I hear these fears expressed by my clients all the time. Thankfully, I was able to get a grip on my insecurity at each point in the process, and to this day, I use the muscles of calm confidence to quell the insecurities that arise occasionally. I teach my clients these same strategies as well as reassure them that everyone gets insecure from time to time. The point is to feel the fear and move forward anyway.